2015: My ex wife's visit to Paris in
the summer holidays results in her meeting (and beginning comitting
adulatery with) a man there. Unknown to her, I am fully aware of this
and first begin thinking of our separation. I dream of taking back
my life before it is too late, but hesitate: family law in the UK is
a nightmare which makes leaving an abusive marriage difficult.
Besides, having children brings an extra layer of difficulty. At this
time, change is already underway, but it has not progressed very
far; I have no defined international plans or strategy as of yet.
2016: I remove my ring six months
before we seperate; my heart is no longer with it. In fact, it is
considerable time since my wife removed hers. The abuse is largely
motivated by money: I am unable to give my wife the extravagent
lifestyle she desires. In August, she visits the man again to
continue the adultery; in September, she tries to get me into
trouble with the police to get me out of the family home; the plan
fails as I am fully aware of her plans and an ready and prepared.
After seperation, I take back the home and – in response to
her refusal to let me see my daughters, I take her to family court.
This also causes me to put my plans on hold – for now...
-Europe would have been a natural
first choice, and a favourite suggestion among my own close circle.
But 'brexit' forces me to rule it out;
-Australia featured high on the list
of suggestions too. But it was also ruled out – it is hard to
get a visa, expensive and I would require qualifications costing me
thousands which the CMS would NEVER leave me the **** alone to save.
-The only other destination which
really had any supporters was somewhere in the Middle East, Dubai
in particular (A favourite suggestion of Ahmeds). But I am not an
expereicnced traveller and am wary of going into the Arab world
alone. This also had to be ruled out.
So I was forced to rule out all the
suggestions which my close circle had made. So what did this leave? Little
did I know that soon, someone else would come and give her own answer...
By the end of the year, I had
(tentatively) begun to search for a new lady (I do NOT mean another
gold digger!!!). I was however nervous of opening up my life after
all I had gone t hrough.
2018: In January, Gloria arrives
and it is initially a race against time to bring her to the UK
before the CMS shuts down this avenue forever. It nearly succeeds,
but she makes a catostrophic mistake which rules this out. But it
also provides a choice of destination. West Africa it is! Meanwhile,
I survive being robbed at knifepoint and narrowly escape losing an
eye.
2019: The CMS force me to abandon
my old home, and shortly after, I survive being robbed at knifepoint
for the second time. Sadly, leaving the home means that I
cannot have my daughters stay with me any longer. But no great loss
– it is becoming too costly (thanks to the CMS!) and I now
plan to leave for Afrcia anyhow. But I need to draw up a plan for
earning an income. After a period of research of consultation I
draw upn] plans for an electronics business. But I need a shorter
term source of income – I need to save to begin the business
after I leave the UK. But before the plans can advance, disaster
strikes....
2020: Covid-19 hits. I am forced
to put plans on hold AGAIN. Meanwhile, we aquire a second orphaned
lady who I allow to join; I welcome Ade. And I narrowly cheat death
– this is due to a medical condition connected with the years
of abouse I have suffered and was exaborated by the robberies (I
have been diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder also, and I
am advised to leave and begin a new life anyhow AWAY from all the
old memories). But my old fashioned family say I am mad to leave
(!!!) and accuse me of 'running away'. To hell with them!
2021: To provide a source of
income which th CMS cannot intercept, I firstly settle for self
employed cleaning work, and – as a longer term solution, an
international source of income. I work towards getting a TEFL
certificate to become on online teacher. I can bypass the system
here by earnig income internationally, and will have a source of
income on arrival. I also put my aunt in her place – I
dumfound her prediction that I will 'die from Covid-19 by the
roadside in Africa' by announcing that I got an early vaccination by
the backdoor just 3 weeks after the vaccination program gets
underway. (My family always had a shocking lack of faith in me; it
seems that the lessons of history are never ever learned.
2023? Well ladies over to you! But
this will include the end of the road for the old family life, a new
life and future for all of us, and as for my ex wife: be afraid.
Be very afraid, your downfall is fast approaching... Update: I am to
work in China in 2024 to help us establish financially. I seem,
somehow, to be collecting Burkinabe ladies. Details to follow...